30 questions that show whether you are caught in the pattern of narcissistic abuse – manipulation, control and a trauma bond – and how your nervous system is responding to it.
Think of one specific relationship – a partner, an ex, a parent, a sibling or a boss. Answer for the last 12 months, or for the time the relationship lasted if it has already ended.
There are no right or wrong answers. Answer by what actually happens, not by what you hope will happen or by what you think you should feel. The assessment takes about 8–10 minutes.
You will receive a detailed, personal report: your overall abuse-pattern score, results in three areas of manipulation, your dominant survival response (fight, flight, freeze or fawn), and concrete next steps grounded in peer-reviewed research.
Your answers stay in your browser. Nothing is sent or saved anywhere.
Important: this is an educational self-assessment, not a clinical diagnosis of you or of anyone else. It helps you name what you are experiencing.